Friday, August 1, 2008
What does Barbra Streisand have to do with today?
One of my favorite songs from that movie is called "My Man." I would cry every time I heard the words. "Oh, my man, I love him so...." Well, eventually, I got my very own man who is just as gorgeous as Omar Sharif. They have a few similarities. They are both dark, soft spoken, and charismatic. But my man is so much more.
I fell in love with my man the first time I saw him across the ballroom floor. VERY CUTE! Getting to know him was my challenge. After all, in social dance class you dance with new partners all the time. Our class probably had 50 people in it. But I was up to the challenge and used every trick I knew to be in the right place at the right time so we would have to talk. And the rest is history!
In getting to know my man, I discovered someone who has many great qualities. He has worked hard his whole life. No material blessing was handed to him. Everything he has, he earned. And he happens to love his work- a real plus! Because of this, he has given our family so many things. In turn, we can give to those in need and who are less fortunate.
My man is smart. He knows more trivia than anyone else I know. Having no college degree hasn't stopped him. He is self taught, and amazing.
I discovered a person who loves people and is always kind. Everyone loves him. I think he only has one enemy in this world, and that person is just plain jealous!
I found a happy person. He's very rarely on a bad mood... maybe 5 times in the 33 years I've known him. I always say that his teeth glow while he's sleeping because he's smiling. Really!
I fell in love with a man who was trying to find out who Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ are, and what they really want him to be. He has a strong testimony and shares it by being one of the most Christ-like people I know, and who honors his priesthood and blesses our family.
I fell more in love as we became parents. He was a calming influence in our home from day one. He could make the kids laugh, or put them to sleep. My man is a great dad!
And last but not least, my man loves me and shows it every day. Even when I'm not so kind, my man treats me with respect and dignity, and tries to make me feel beautiful.
So on this day that we celebrate his birthday, "..... wherever my man is, I am his, forever more."
Friday, July 25, 2008
Memories
(I have known Sidney for.... 35 years? Wow, how time flies! And as Sidney's blog reminds us, so do hairstyles! You always hear when you are young that the older you get, the faster time flies. It's so true. I just need to keep up by blogging. I will try to repent and blog more often.)
So Miq and Jess's blog challenged us to recount favorite memories of them. Toooooo many to record in one paragraph. To any who might read this, go to their blogs and see what others remember. It's pretty fun.
Anyway, I want to tell you about my fun time with my favorite granddaughter last week. I look forward to several days of one-on-one time with my Jules every so often. We have been having these "times" since she was a toddler. Never having this luxury with a grandmother myself, nor my girls with their grandmas, I treasure these times. I try to think of fun things to do, sometimes with a friend, but most often just the 2 of us.
The time started with Mique bring all three kidlets down to spend the night on a Friday. Julia was my date for a wedding reception for one of my favorite seminary students. We both had a good time, me mostly introducing her to friends and showing her off. Julia is famous for her funny statements, and that night was no exception. When asked by a friend what she had planned to do while at Grammy's, she said "We're going to Grammy's cousin's farm." Several months ago I had told her that someday I'd love to take her to visit Cousin Raelyn, and show her around their farm. Obviously, Julia is looking forward to that visit.... SOMEDAY! (Maybe I'd better ask Raelyn if she'd like visitors before we just show up.)
The next day, after Mique took the boys home, Julia spent the whole afternoon in the spa, perfecting her newly learned swimming skills. Yep, 3 hours in the spa! She finally got out to get ready to go with Uncle T and Papa and me to an exhibition water polo match with the Olympic team, and a friend of Papa's . Funny to watch her swim, then go watch these crazy good swimmers! She was exhausted by the time we finally drove home after a long day.
Julia enjoyed coming with me to my Primary class the next day, and felt very grown up attending class with 7 and 8 year olds. They were very sweet to her.
Monday we went to the Wave Waterpark in Vista. Last year we went there, and she wanted to go again to show off her new skills in the water. She played in the big pool, floated in the "Crazy Lake" (that's what he called the Lazy River), played in the water play structure. Lots of fun; a full day in the sun!
Tuesday was breakfast with my former neighbors, hosted by Susan Yermanos. Nicole Yermanos was very sweet to play with Jules, and Julia didn't want to leave. But she knew we were going to the beach, so that made it OK. We joined some mothers and kids from the ward, and again Julia didn't want to leave, after 4 hours in the sun. (Even I was getting tired of so much sun!) Thanks, Rocky B. for entertaining us all!
Wednesday we picked Morgan Cummings up at 9:30 and headed to Stagecoach park. The girls had met last summer at a beach night, and Julia couldn't wait to play with her again. We came back home, had lunch, went in the spa for a few minutes, played with as many toys as they could, then it was time to take Morgan home. Then we picked Kloe Porterfield up to go to the movie- "Kit Kitridge, An American Girl." Kloe was sweet to join us, even though she is several years older than Jules. Both girls have AG dolls, so they loved the movie.
Thursday was time to go home. We went to Long's to fill a prescription for Papa, and picked up some treats to take on the train. We headed to Oceanside, after saying goodby to Uncle T. The train ride was fun; Julia was a very good girl!
Am I a lucky Grammie or what?! I hope I can make many more memories with all my girls. And I love my boys, too! Owen will be here in a few weeks for a 2 week visit. I'm sure we'll have more fun. And 'Drew and JJ are such special boys. No grammy is more proud than this one.
Now, if I could just learn to post pictures, then you would see my beautiful kidlets. I'm hoping to learn that soon. In the mean time, please look at their blogs!
Monday, May 12, 2008
Mom on moms
I had a conversation with Heidi the other day where she told me about the talk she was asked to give on Mother's Day. (Troy is very lucky to be married to her... he had asked her to give the talk.) I'd never really thought about her interesting experience with her 3 mothers. Just let me say, that it got me thinking about being a mom.
As with most women, parts of mothering were difficult for me. The biggest challenge was to just enjoy my children. As I watch my own daughters mother, I realize they are so much better at it than I was. I was (and am) so impatient! I so wish I had taken more time to play with them. I wish I had been better at embracing each child's uniqueness. I mostly wish I had been more cheerful. The worst day of the year was Mother's day where I just wanted to go hibernate somewhere.
Now I understand how mean that was to my kids. THEY WERE KIDS!!! They just wanted to be loved by mom. I get it now. I hope they forgive me.
On the plus side, my kids turned out great, despite my failings! They are loving, and generous, and thoughtful, and still treat me like I did a great job mothering. They are good spouses, and parents, and children. I'm so lucky to have been blessed with them in my life. Their examples teach me so much more than I ever taught them.
So this Mother's day, I was able to sit back and reflect, enjoy a quiet day, feel the love from the kids and Randy and know that I am good enough. Not perfect, but good enough. My kids still love me even though I didn't make it easy at times. I love being their mom, and the grammy of their kids. I'm glad I could be a stay at home mom, with fruit ready for them when they came home from school, and art projects everywhere, and games to attend and yell at. I'm glad they weren't too embarrasses to bring their friends home, and they made pretty good choices growing up. I'm glad they wanted to experience the joys of mothering- that their mother gave them enough to know that it is the greatest blessing in life to be a mother!
Sunday, April 6, 2008
well....... catch up time
So I'll try to catch up a bit. (I'm sure I won't remember LOTS!!!)
One of the blogs I created in my mind was about all the boys in my life. I have been blessed with some terrific males over the course of 52 3/4 years. A good dad, the best husband, a son that makes me so proud, 2 awesome son-in-laws, and 3 fabulous grandson. In thinking on this topic, I was equating my relationship with these, to my relationship to Heavenly Father, and Older Brother, Jesus. I am truly blessed!!!
Then I have to acknowledge the girls. My daughters make me proud EVERY DAY!!! And Julia is so precious to me.
I was able to attend the awards assembly where Jonathan received an award for best effort. He is so much of an inspiration to me. And Julia got an award for academics. Not only is she adorable, but sooooo smart!! Wow, I thought my seams would burst with pride!!!!
A few weeks later, I met Mique and Julia for some girl time at the American Girl Cafe in Hollywood, where we dined and talked and even shopped a little. I LOVED it!!! I think they did, too. The only draw back was that I had to get back to a temple session, and couldn't stay as long as I'd have liked to. But so fun!!!! (check out Mique's blog.)
I've been able to spend a little time with Jessica and Owen recently. (Clint, too.) He's a cute little guy. We sure know how to get cute grandkids!!! (pics on their blogs.) Jess is busy training for the 1/2 marathon that she, Mique and several others will run on Memorial day. Jessica and Clint are good parents!
Tony finished his 2nd quarter at graduate school. So much time involved. I think he did well. I know he will be glad when this is all behind him, but he's getting invaluable education. It will all be worth it. Today he's my hero. He may seem laid back, but he fights hard for what he wants. I saw that in him 25 years ago when he was fighting for his life. He continues to show that spirit.
I learned much from conference this weekend. I look forward to reading the talks in the Ensign. I especially loved hearing the support of the brothern for our new prophet, Thomas S. Monson. It was interesting to see the mantle of the calling falling on him. Pres. Hinckley was so beloved. But it is apparent that Pres. Monson is also loved. We are so lucky to have a living prophet.
I'll catch up more soon. I promise.....
Saturday, February 2, 2008
A beautiful sunset
Pres. Hinckley taught me so many lessons. He shared with us all the "Be" talk. Simple words, but perfect beatitudes of our time. Be smart, be clean, be true, be humble, be prayerful, and be grateful. I am so grateful for him! Thank you, Mique for a perfect, beautiful reminder of these "BE's" as a Christmas present. I will try to "be" more!
He taught us to love one another. He showed by tremendous example that we are all, every one of us, a child of God, our Heavenly Father who loves us each individually. He taught that we in turn have to love each other, even when we disagree. He embraced the differences in us, and realized that we are all family. I know he loved me. I felt that love every time I heard him say it, or even read his words.
He taught the importance of family. The Proclamation on the Family is a beautiful document that I know is scripture, written by he and the first presidency, for the world to know the Lord's expectations of families. He loved his family, and often spoke on the importance of husbands and wives to love each other and treat each other with respect. His children were loved and nurtured by he and his wife, Marjorie. I just know they were amazing parents!
He taught me that hard work is the a necessary blessing in life. He worked until 2 days before his death, at the age of 97. And he loved his work. I hope I can do more because of his example.
Education was so important to him. The church schools grew under his guidance. He was a lifelong learner.
He understood the importance of temples, building so many all over the world so everyone could have the opportunity to share the blessings that the temple offer to all who attend it. I'm so glad to have the opportunity to attend our temple often.
During his presidency the church grew in huge numbers. Through the efforts of thousands of missionaries and members, the gospel has been shared all over the world. What an honor it was for me to have 2 children serve people in other countries during his presidency, sharing the message that the gospel of Jesus Christ is for every person. Pres. Hinckley loved every person on this earth, and wanted all that the Lord has to offer for each of us. He also understood that we, church members, need to be examples of Christ. He raised the bar for all who wanted to be missionaries, and in turn, for all who are members of Christ's church.
His generosity has touched many lives around the world. Under his guidance, the church has been involved with humanitarian opportunities all over the world. Whether the Perpetual Education Fund, the Welfare program for members, the disaster relief efforts, the aid to 3rd world countries in the way of food and water. The list goes on and on......
His sense of humor was so endearing, so real! I would have loved to know him as a friend. I bet he was fun to be around! As he spoke at conferences, or in interviews his keen sense of humor always crept in, when appropriate. I hope I can look at life with hope, humor, optimism, and enthusiasm as he did.
He bore unwavering witness that Jesus is our Christ, the Redeemer, the Savior of all mankind. I'm sure that He was there to greet our beloved prophet as he passed from this life.
I truly love this man. He has touched my heart in profound ways. Being so imperfect, I know I have much to work on. But because of his great example, I will try harder, love more, give more, complain less, and look forward to the time when I can meet him in Heaven and say "thank you"!
I hope he could see our beautiful sunset tonight. I can't help but think that Heavenly Father was giving me a tender mercy as I say tonight "'Til we meet again! I love you, Pres. Hinckley!"
Saturday, January 26, 2008
What a way to start a new year......
Actually, I can't complain. It has all been fun. We went to the restaurant at the Four Seasons, "Vivace" for our anniversary dinner (thanks to Scott and Sharie Ferrell's Christmas present.) Beautiful, yummy, great company. Nothing to complain about. A very nice evening.
2 days later, it was off to San Antonio with the bp's to celebrate 2 special b'days. What a fun riverwalk! We had a great time. Karin brought a fun girl game, where there are written questions that you answer. I hadn't laughed so hard in a very long time! Karin should be a comedienne! We walked a lot and ate a lot and just generally had a good time. I'm lucky to have great friends!
We got home Sunday night; I did laundry, went to "cards", got ready for the next trip. I had hoped to go to Santa Clarita to celebrated Jonathan's 8th b'day, but I was soooo tired. I'm really glad that the Provosts were there to celebrate with him. I will make a very special effort to be there next year! Luckily I had sent his box of present before leaving for San Antonio. (I had also sent Krista Wischmann's gifts, as she turned 10 on Jan. 12.)
Thurs. morning, before the sun came up, we left for the airport for our trip to Maui. The flight was nice, even arriving a few minutes early, so we got to our hotel in Kihei a little after noon. We had a really nice trip. GREAT weather, fun excursions, snorkling and whale watching. I love sea life!!! We saw sooooo many turtles and fish varieties, and several whales. Lahaina is a fun town to window shop. Kihei has changed so much. I was disappointed in the fact that it's so busy. Not the sleepy, on stop sign town anymore. We actually went with a realtor to look for possible condos to buy. No luck. Everything in our price range needs lots of work, and isn't what we would want to spend any time staying in. So a vacation home is on the back burner for awhile. That's OK. The only real disappointment in our trip was the hotel. We stayed at the Marriott Wailea. It is newly acquired and in the middle of renovations. I won't go in to details. Just know that it could have been nicer for the cost!!! But our trip was a nice get away. Randy got some much-needed sleep. I just love being in a tropical setting. So we're looking forward to another trip there sometime soon. With the Fam.
Today I wrote letters to some dear local friends inviting them to join me in a fun charity group. I'll write more about that as the group develops. I hope others think it's as good an idea as I do.
And I have Julia's 6th b'day to look forward to on Wed. Jessica, O, and I are planning on going up there for the afternoon to help her celebrate. I hope it works out. I miss those kiddos!!!!
Then only one day will be left in January, and I can catch my breath. I hope to get organized with my goals- eating better, loosing the tummy, walking the miles that the girls are running to train for the 1/2 marathon (minus the long distances.) I have to get in control!!!!!!
Monday, December 31, 2007
A Year Well Spent
It began with Randy and I celebrating our 3oth anniversary January 8. We celebrated by going on a Medditerrainean cruise in May/June. It was a wonderful trip with my best friend.
Big milestones for each of my kids.....
Tony graduated from BYU in April. He and Erika moved back to paradise, where he began working for Randy before starting graduate school at the New School of Architecture in S.D. in the fall. It's GREAT to have them close by!!!!
Jessica and Clint were blessed with a beautiful baby boy, Owen, on Sept. 25. He is a special addition to our family!!!! They also live close by, in Carmel Valley. We love seeing them often!!!
Mique turned 30 Nov. 3. (I can't believe I'm old enough to have a child that age!) She celebrated many ways, one being the surprise party that Josh and I planned with the help of other family. I think she liked her b'day.
We had a wonderful Christmas. It began in late Nov. as my bf's and I went to dinner for our annual gift exchange. Good food, great friends. I'm one lucky lady!!! The fun continued as I put on our ward Christmas breakfast. (My last activity as chairman of the committee. Yippee!!!) It was very stressful (just ask anyone around me including Randy Lang!!!) But with some help, a good time was had by all. My Randy was my right hand man, my biggest support, and even dressed as "Elf" to ensure a good party. That night was his annual office party at Donovan's. We left stuffed! I also spent time with my card playing/ temple going great friends, exchanging gifts and wonderful friendship! We went to brunch at the Nuckols the Saturday before Christmas and sang in their annual carrol sing along. That night we went to the Platts for a potluck and visited with more dear friends.
It was our turn to host the annual Alder family Christmas eve dinner. I made more trips to Costco in the 2 weeks leading up to the dinner than I had all year! Lisa and Greg and kids arrived Sunday night, and others started coming the next morning. With a T time of noon, we got the boys (and Cindy)off, and began preparations in earnest for dinner. We had a very nice Christmas eve, except that Scott and Teresa and boys were unable to join us as Teresa's dad was ill and needed their attention. We missed them and all the others who couldn't join us.
Here is a cute picture of 3 handsome cousins!!!

The next day Mique, Josh , and kids drove down. It took Julia bout 5 minutes to find the 2 new cars we had gotten to keep here to play with when they visit. They were a big hit!! A mini golf cart and a push peddle Benz. (When I saw the Benz in a catalogue I had to have it!!!) We opened presents and had a good time. The presents were all awesome this year. Very thoughtful. Many homemade. Mique found a set of Hall mixing bowls that match the other things I have collected. She made Randy a beautiful family tree that's on canvas. Tony and Erika gave me a beautiful shell votive holder, and Randy a movie he'd asked for. Jessica and fam had come over Friday night before they left to spend christmas with the Ericksons and we exchanged gifts then. They gave me some adorable blocks with the pictures of the grandkids, and Randy a different family tree. It was a special Christmas.
Kids having fun driving.......................................
Randy and I have been able to spend some time together. He works so hard that it's a treat to be home relaxing. We had planned to join Janet as she retired, but got to the airport and our flight was delayed because the flight crew didn't show up. (I have never heard of such a thing!!!) So we just went home to another quiet day.
Tonight we plan on spending time with former neighbors that we don't see often enough. We are so blessed to have a great family and have the best friends. We appreciate each person so much! I am so grateful to a Heavenly Father who has showered gifts on my and those I love. I'm grateful to an Older Brother who's birth we just celebrated. His gift of the gospel and especially the atonement can never be repaid. I hope this year I can be more like Him.
May the coming year be as good as the last!!!